Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing.
1 Peter 3:9
There will be a time in your foster or adoption journey that you are angry. We are part of a broken system that is being fine tuned as we simultaneously attempt to do our job of loving these children. You’ll have caseworkers and bio parents in your business and some days you’ll just want to throw your hands up and yell, “what?!”
In our journey, we had at least five case workers, some more helpful than others. I met two biological mothers, three biological fathers and a handful of other relatives and friends. I was surrounded by people who would not typically be in my inner circle and who I would not typically associate with at all.
My judgements did not matter.
In 1 Peter 3:9, we are instructed not to repay evil with evil or insult with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing because this is why we are called so we may inherit a blessing. You have been called to this journey and your blessing will be in the children that are entrusted to you. You will be blessed by them and through them more than you can ever fathom.
Those blessings can only be poured down on you if you open your heart to repay evil with blessing. When your child’s bio mother doesn’t show up to her visit it’s easy to be irritated. Sarcasm and insults flow easily from our lips with the help of the prodding of Satan. I urge you to be stronger than Satan’s poke. Refrain from the negativity and repay instead with a blessing.
When the case worker doesn’t have the answers, is slow to respond or seems like they just aren’t hearing your concerns, don’t slander them or allow anger to creep into your spirit. They are a perceived evil and should not be repaid with evil, but with blessings. Although there are times you may not feel it, they are on your team and they are trying to keep these children safe and loved just as you are. As your frustration grows, remind yourself that their caseloads are growing and the blessing of your patience and understanding is showing grace in a way that they don’t always encounter.
To this you were called and for this you will be blessed. When you feel misunderstood, manipulated or unappreciated, take a moment to find a way to be a blessing. In the moments that we feel the least inclined to bless others is the exact moments that we should.