Several years ago, I decided to do Lent a bit differently. Instead of giving something up like I had done all through my childhood, I was going to purposefully work on something specific for 40 days. For instance, one year I worked on 40 Days of Decreasing Mom Guilt and I spent time each day really diving into the areas of my life where I found myself crumbling under the pressures. What I learned that year is the pressure most often comes from myself, not others. When Lent was over, I found I had a new outlook on some areas of my life and I was genuinely a happier person.
So this year I decided to continue on the tradition and chose to focus on 40 Days of Affirmations for Foster and Adoptive Parents. I narrowed my thoughts to foster and adoptive parents, but many of my affirmations could be embraced by any parent. The reality is we live in a world that constantly brings us down and we need to latch on to the positive truths of our life.
As Easter nears and my 40 Days of Affirmations for Foster and Adoptive Parents comes to a close, it is my deepest hope that you save this list and read it often. As foster and adoptive parents, we face challenges that are different from families who have only biological children. Our networks look different, our discipline strategies look different and our mind is always in a different place. We need to fill our buckets on a regular basis because we are constantly giving to others. If we don’t take the time to fill ourselves and one another, no one else will do it for us.
1 You are exactly what these children need right now
2 You are enough
3 Your title does not define you
4 You deserve you time
5 Your house isn’t clean? So what!
6 You’re doing a good job
7 It’s ok to ask for help
8 No one knows your heart, but you
9 Your opinions matter
10 You don’t have to be perfect to be great
11 You are valuable / valued
12 You’re making a difference
13 You are a blessing to your children
14 You are brave
15 Not everyone will like you and that’s ok
16 It’s ok to be vulnerable
17 Your child is perfect just as they are
18 You know what is good for your child
19 It’s ok to say no
20 The time you are investing matters
21 You can be confident
22 You can be supportive
23 You can find joy in every day
24 Your needs matter
25 You are capable
26 Perfection is impossible
27 It’s ok to not love every moment
28 You are appreciated
29 Your best is always enough
30 You do not need to hold on to the guilt
31 One bad day does not make you a bad parent
32 Your boundaries are important
33 It’s ok to struggle
34 Life is good today
35 You can be in calm in the chaos
36 You know your child best
37 You are raising a legacy
38 You are a blessing
39 You are still learning and that’s ok!
40 Embrace the present
I wrote these 40 affirmations as much for myself as I did for those of you reading. We need to remind ourselves often of our worth and what an opportunity we have to remind others as well.
If you’d like to read these affirmations in more detail, hop on over to Instagram and follow me @AngJam731. It is my hope to encourage and uplift on a daily basis.