You Don’t Have to Do It All

Dear Momma, 

I see you looking at your to do list, wondering where the hours of your day went. I see you swaying your infant as you try to knock out the dishes and put laundry away. 

I see you wondering how to fit it all in. 

I’m wondering, too. 

The older children are back in school and I feel like I should be knocking my to do list out left and right. I have aspirations that have been sitting on a back burner because I just knew I would have more time once the children were back in school. 

I’m going to write every day. 

I’m going to read every day. 

I’m going to cook dinner more often than not. 

I’m going to make it to the gym at least twice a week. 

I’m going to, I’m going to, I’m going to…

The list goes on and yet I haven’t accomplished one of those tasks. Not one. I’m feeling a bit defeated, wondering what I’ve done to waste my days, but I don’t feel as if I’ve wasted them at all. 

My days, nor yours, are not wasted just because we don’t complete the to do list we’ve created in our head. Our lives are no less valuable, important, or worth attention if we don’t do it all.   

We don’t have to do it all. 

Momma, embrace that message because it will change your days for the rest of your life. 

You don’t have to do it all. 

Some days you may be able to fit it all in and some days you may fit nothing in. Both days are valuable and should be celebrated. 

If you spend a day snuggling a cranky baby, you were exactly where you needed to be. 

If you spend a day doing dishes, folding laundry and dusting shelves, you were exactly where you needed to be. 

You see, there is no schedule to motherhood. There is no daily checklist or prerequisite to the perfect day. There is only good intentions and trying our best. 

I see you, momma trying to fit it all in and I beg you to stop. Stop beating yourself up for the to do list that didn’t get completed or the laundry that’s been sitting in the basket for a week. 

Give yourself grace and allow your schedule to be fluid. Make a to do list that flows through days and doesn’t lock you into a standard of feeling defeated. 

Your days, no matter what you get done and what you don’t, are valuable. 

Momma, you don’t have to do it all and you should stop trying. 

You are a Super Star every day!

Love,

A Fellow Super Star